Isn't it funny how life with kids and pets can go from 0 to 60 so quickly? A typical morning starts with hearing Paisley over the monitor, I wake up go feed her and then I bring her out into the kitchen with me or put her on the floor in the living room with toys. I get some coffee and try to wake up some more while Judah is still sleeping. The house is pretty calm and quiet. After awhile, Judah wakes up, Paisley and I go get him. Shortly after that, I realize Rosie the dog hasn't been outside yet. Judah and Paisley need breakfast. Judah needs to go in the potty chair. My calm and quiet morning is suddenly chaos. Everyone needs something and I feel like a frazzled, spread too thin (but, not thin enough) mom.
So, Paisley was in her highchair yelling because she needed something. Rosie was at my feet, Judah was needing something, getting into something and I was trying to meet all of their needs immediately. I was running around like crazy so that Paisley would settle down, Judah would be sitting in his booster seat with his breakfast, Rosie would have emptied her bladder and everyone would be happy. I go into high gear for what, so that no one has to wait? To avoid any fussing? So that the dog doesn't have to be patient for just another minute?
When I was running around the kitchen all frazzled this morning at 8am, I realized that trying to meet every one's need that very instance actually isn't helping them in the long run. I'm not teaching them to be patient. In life, sometimes we do have to wait for a minute. It's not good set the expectation that things come easily and quickly all the time. Life isn't like that. Life isn't all about us and what we need this second. Of course I want my children to have all their needs met and more but, getting breakfast on the table 3 minutes earlier and feeling all frazzled isn't worth it. I refuse to let my children or dog for that matter run me in circles.
I read something recently that I really liked. The author was talking about how it's not actually very beneficial for our children if we are always prepared for everything. If we have a snack to hand out at any second, a toy to be passed to the back seat at all times, an activity to always do or a place to always go. If we are going to be home from church in 10 minutes, it's OK to wait until we are home for a snack. It teaches patience and it's realistic.
When Judah was a baby I didn't always give him toys in the car. He didn't ask for them and I didn't offer them. It wasn't something that I really made a big deal of but, I didn't want him to have this expectation in his mind that he always needed to be occupied while we were driving. To this day, he is happy driving in the car and although he sometimes plays with toys or reads books, he doesn't depend on it. He can happily ride along with nothing in his hands and just be content. Isn't that what it's all about, learning to be content and thankful?