Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Why I'm Cleaning My Kids Room Less

I love cleaning messes I didn't make
So, I became a Mom
Said -No One Ever
Sometimes I look at Instagram or read blogs and wonder if those people's kids even play. When I was in highschool, I never imagined that I'd be a 30 year old sometimes (very) insecure Mother who wonders why everyone else has kids with rooms that always look so clean and tidy. Do their kids play? What do they even do all day?

I walked past this the other night and I couldn't help but go back for my camera. If I've fooled you into thinking that my kids always have a tidy room, I sincerely apologize. Let's start this new year with some real pictures, why don't we? No more pretending that everything is shiny and always put away. Around here, things stay put for about 2.5 seconds.
Oh, it's just us? Well, now I feel silly.....

I spent a lot of time during 2014, doing something that before I was a Mom, I thought I'd  never do and my kids would ALWAYS do. I cleaned up their room- like not once a day, but off and on all day. This is like Confessions of a Type-A neat freak, who had 3 children and actually loves being a Mom. It's like therapy, except I feel like I'm talking to myself.

So..... I'd have them help, it definitely wasn't all bad. We implemented lots of good habits like how you should put one thing away before you get another out.....but still, I was cleaning up their room all day and I was frustrated with the never ending mess. The messes drove me crazy and instead of expecting them to clean it up each time (since I don't feel like it's appropriate to have a 1, 3 and 5 year old cleaning all day), I'd end up doing it myself.

Towards the end of the year, I realized that I wasn't doing them a favor by always going behind them and cleaning up their messes all day. I was teaching them basically nothing and I was putting away toys that they were potentially not done playing with.

So, while everyone was making New Years Resolutions to clean more and become more organized, I made a little deal with myself. I'd clean their room less AND I'd let it get messy. I'd create other spaces in our home that can be tidy and that I love AND their room? Well, I'd let it look like this and then together, at the end of the day, we'd clean it up. That's right, we'd clean it once a day or if it was becoming a complete danger zone, we'd tidy it up here and there.

When I made this little deal with myself, I wondered if my kids would play more, if I wasn't always going behind them, picking up everything that they'd just pulled out. After just a week, I'd say that they do play better. It's like someone hasn't just gone behind them and ahem...put their toys away.

The rest of the house can be how I like it, but for now, I'm working on letting their room be a little messy and I'm sharing real pictures, because I feel like other Moms need to see this stuff. The internet has lots of pretty, shiny photos to inspire us. I love pretty and shiny, but sometimes I need to also know that I'm not alone.

I'm working on cleaning my kids room LESS. What are you working on right now?

1 comment:

  1. Thanks for posting this. Makes lots of sense. If they want a certain toy then some "burrowing" through the maze might be part of the learning process!

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